This is an important verse for children, especially in present times. However, I think there should be a lesson that works for families with only one parent since the scripture seems to be geared for two parent homes and single parent homes are often overlooked.
The problem with how most people interpret these verses, mainly the ones about raising children, are that they are mainly talking about two parent homes. Christians often overlook the single parent homes and leave out a lot of us. Mother’s especially have a harder time getting our children to listen to us than father’s and two parent homes. Father’s have that big booming voice that gets kids’ attention and they know he means business. Mother’s tend to be more soft spoken and often times, have to yell to be heard. Yelling is never good because it makes her seem unstable and she loses her calm. We as christians need to realize that we all need to work together and help those who are going it alone. The old saying “it takes a village” is so true. Especially in a congregation that has single parents.
“I am reminded of your sincere faith, a faith that dwelt first in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice and now, I am sure, dwells in you as well” 2 Timothy 1:5
While single parents can and have instilled some faith in their children, a lot of them cannot do it alone and are still learning themselves. Some of us have not grown up in the church and still are unsure about everything. We need the guidance of those who have been there longer and know more about the bible than us. Just because we are single parents doing it all alone, doesn’t mean we don’t need help. We need more help than those two parent families do.
My experience being a single mother and raising two boys is not the prettiest. My boys never listen to me and they seemingly don’t respect me because I haven’t had the help of their dad or others. Now days I do have a great man in my life who is being helpful but sometimes I feel like they’ve gone without a male figure so long that it might be too late. Their dad and their grandmother would tell them when they were younger, that they did not have to listen to me and they would constantly undermine everything that I was trying to teach my boys. It wasn’t until I joined the Church of Christ that I started to get some help in raising my boys. Now I have a boyfriend who is also a huge help. But before that, they just would not listen to me for anything. I would spank, I would raise my voice, I tried everything but nothing worked. I needed help! I am thankful for the help I have now but at the time it seemed like nothing would get through to them. Even now, they still have behavior problems but they are somewhat more manageable now. With the help of my church family and my boyfriend.
Anyway, I just wanted to get this off my chest. My friend and I are thinking about a book series for children of single parent homes with single mothers and single fathers for them to understand some scriptures a bit better. Something that is geared towards families with single parents, foster parents, blended families, and such. Something that helps the parents as well as the children. Maybe a graphic novel or something for older children as well as an illustrated book for younger children.